Time passes! We now have 9 months til the big day - great if we are cooking up a baby, but shockingly short to cook up a really fun weddin' :). Or maybe just enough time. Twinkie and I have been immersed in things non-matrimonial, and also in Newfoundland and are just now back getting our Southern Ontario bearings. Sadly, one of our friends' parents died in August. We were able to have a lovely dinner party with those friends and to celebrate our friendship - some, like T.P. and T.W., I have been friends with 30 and 17 years. Time. I can't believe I have been friends with T.P. for two years longer than Twinkie has been on this planet. Time. Passes.
So, wedding updates:
1. We may have a caterer - have sent her info and details and are waiting for some info and details coming back from her, and prices. Since nobody has stepped forward to offer to pay for the shindig, it turns out Twinkie and I are doing it. And it will be so worth it to have all the people we love together to celebrate love and luck and joy and family. blah blah i digress
2. We may have an officiant - we are trying to firm that up - again, needs money, so great
3. We have the venue, we think, but as yet, no contract.
Uh oh. terrified now.
Some sweet wedding things/moments:
1. We received our first engagement gift from L.S., a lovely lucky bamboo - totally unexpected and quite sweet;
2. We received our second engagement gift from L.D. and S.W. - Bulgari perfume - which we both adore (lets just say L.D. left her sweater at our place and she wears this perfume and we would periodically sniff the sweater for the month we had it at our place). Sweater sniffers no more, we now have our own bottle - thx L.D. and S.W.; and
3. G and D. O. have said they will have an engagement party for us. How incredibly sweet.
We didn't/don't expect engagement gifts, parties, nothing - we don't expect it and don't think about it. But it was/is awfully sweet that people thought of us.
Weddings are sweet events! And seeing as we hope this to be the last wedding for either of us, we want it to be wonderful!
So - "to do" lists in hand and checking our Martha Stewart checklist, I remain
Yours in Matrimony
Cupcake
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
Friday, August 6, 2010
Do-Over
Aside from my family, there will, I think, only be one person who is coming to the wedding as a do-over, and that is TP. We've known each other since we were 16 and he has been a dear friend ever since. The night before my first wedding, he called me and asked if I wanted to back out and assured me I could. Not sure if it was because he knew that he and the groom had something BIG in common - their uncommon sexual orientation, or if it was just because he was worried about me.
Anyway, I invited him and I hope he can make it.
For the Do-Over. Done right.
Yours in matrimony,
Cupcake
Anyway, I invited him and I hope he can make it.
For the Do-Over. Done right.
Yours in matrimony,
Cupcake
Saturday, July 31, 2010
Wedding News!!!
So, we asked JB of MCC if she would marry us and she is free and willing! We still have to learn about the tests we have to take and what it will cost, etc., but the search is over and we won't have to have an Elvis impersonator do it by videoconference. Phew!
Twinkie headed over to the venue to make sure that the octogenarian planning this remembers that we have booked the place. She wasn't around, but her husband was, and Twinkie gave him one of the "save the date" magnets. We got 50 of them! Kind of neat - they are business card size and the same picture that is on the blog is on them and they just mention the date and place of the weddin'
Gave them to my work friends, including E, who should, by all rights, be giving us away and walking both of us down the aisle. We asked her to marry us, too, but the whole marriage thing got messy to figure out and we are all too jealous, so in the end, we scrapped that idea. Anyway, one of my work friends is really ... ENCOURAGING me to come out to everyone at work. It is no secret that I am a big lesbian, but I like to be in the pretend closet at work ... just like to share my life with those I choose to share it with, and also because my work is rife with right-wingers. In fact, the word fa**** was used in a pejorative way - apparently that was corrected, but it does not feel like the safest place to be out! However, I am considering it. It wouldn't be shocking, it would just include strangers into my heaven. Or acquaintances. Or even work friends.
Tried to give them to Twinkie's sisters, but they were not home and don't have outdoor mailboxes!
Gave them to our MC - did I mention that our friend Venus has agreed to be the MC? When I was thinking of people and friends who have been really present and around during this year of joy and change - Venus has been one of those like S.,K. and C. who have been such amazing friends - to me and to both of us. So we wanted to honour her. Poor sweetie thought we were asking her to do a song - and we just assumed she'd be singing - didn't think to ask. Horrible us. However, we are hoping ...
Gave them to Twinkie's mom, when we had our fantastic visit last weekend!
Gave them to B. and A., when we went to visit and see the music with the Mancub.
So, we are doing some wedding stuff. In fact, Twinkie wrote her vows today. So sweet.
Creampuff is also getting excited - she referred to us as her parents the other day - no slight to her papa, but she just sees us as a unit, which is sweet - I have always wanted that for her ...
So, have to get out that wedding checklist and see where we are with the plans! Cupcake Sr. wanted me to have picked out a colour scheme by the time she gets back from Citadellia, so will have to make haste and get that underway.
Off to go see Salt in the cinema that serves you a beer right at your chair! Oh yeah. I love payday.
Yours in matrimony, Cupcake
Twinkie headed over to the venue to make sure that the octogenarian planning this remembers that we have booked the place. She wasn't around, but her husband was, and Twinkie gave him one of the "save the date" magnets. We got 50 of them! Kind of neat - they are business card size and the same picture that is on the blog is on them and they just mention the date and place of the weddin'
Gave them to my work friends, including E, who should, by all rights, be giving us away and walking both of us down the aisle. We asked her to marry us, too, but the whole marriage thing got messy to figure out and we are all too jealous, so in the end, we scrapped that idea. Anyway, one of my work friends is really ... ENCOURAGING me to come out to everyone at work. It is no secret that I am a big lesbian, but I like to be in the pretend closet at work ... just like to share my life with those I choose to share it with, and also because my work is rife with right-wingers. In fact, the word fa**** was used in a pejorative way - apparently that was corrected, but it does not feel like the safest place to be out! However, I am considering it. It wouldn't be shocking, it would just include strangers into my heaven. Or acquaintances. Or even work friends.
Tried to give them to Twinkie's sisters, but they were not home and don't have outdoor mailboxes!
Gave them to our MC - did I mention that our friend Venus has agreed to be the MC? When I was thinking of people and friends who have been really present and around during this year of joy and change - Venus has been one of those like S.,K. and C. who have been such amazing friends - to me and to both of us. So we wanted to honour her. Poor sweetie thought we were asking her to do a song - and we just assumed she'd be singing - didn't think to ask. Horrible us. However, we are hoping ...
Gave them to Twinkie's mom, when we had our fantastic visit last weekend!
Gave them to B. and A., when we went to visit and see the music with the Mancub.
So, we are doing some wedding stuff. In fact, Twinkie wrote her vows today. So sweet.
Creampuff is also getting excited - she referred to us as her parents the other day - no slight to her papa, but she just sees us as a unit, which is sweet - I have always wanted that for her ...
So, have to get out that wedding checklist and see where we are with the plans! Cupcake Sr. wanted me to have picked out a colour scheme by the time she gets back from Citadellia, so will have to make haste and get that underway.
Off to go see Salt in the cinema that serves you a beer right at your chair! Oh yeah. I love payday.
Yours in matrimony, Cupcake
Friday, July 30, 2010
Our anniversary!
This blogging is hard - as hard as going to the gym more than once a year or eating 5 fruits a day. Keeping this thing fresh could prove to be as impossible as keeping bread on the counter in a heat wave.
Wedding news ... Well, Twinkie and I celebrated our one year anniversary. Astonishing. We had a beautiful day in spite of me having to work at the church for most of the afternoon. We got away at 3 and went to our favourite bacon diner. They were closing, but let us in, locked the doors behind us and served us our usual special, with extra bacon. We had a lovely chat with Maria and she offered us drinks on the house. Told her it was our anniversary and that we were going for a country drive. Wouldn't remember any of that, except it was all in an email sent to me by my ex the next day after she'd gone into the restaurant and asked if we'd been in lately. When she got the answer, she felt compelled to write me a long letter about how horrible I am. I didn't feel up to countering the horrible part, but I corrected some misinformation in her tome and then shared with her that Twinkie and I are in love, living together and getting married.
After brunch, we left Toronto and went for a drive and revisited all the places we'd seen on our first notadate on July 18th, 2009. It was romantic and sweet and silly and fun and fabulous. I'm so glad we did it. We found some neat little antique shops and went back to a pub that has the nastiest staff and worst service ever. When we walked in, they said "we're not serving food and we're almost closing, so ...." I ordered a beer and drank it from the bottle (did I mention it is also dirty) Twinkie didn't drink her pop from a glass. But i'm still glad we went. Will post pictures here.
Both of our hearts were full with our lovely day - sounds cheesy and it is. And I'm proud of it. Bliss and enjoyment are so incredible and so fulfilling and I celebrate it when it comes my way :) Thank you so much Twinkie.
Wedding news ... Well, Twinkie and I celebrated our one year anniversary. Astonishing. We had a beautiful day in spite of me having to work at the church for most of the afternoon. We got away at 3 and went to our favourite bacon diner. They were closing, but let us in, locked the doors behind us and served us our usual special, with extra bacon. We had a lovely chat with Maria and she offered us drinks on the house. Told her it was our anniversary and that we were going for a country drive. Wouldn't remember any of that, except it was all in an email sent to me by my ex the next day after she'd gone into the restaurant and asked if we'd been in lately. When she got the answer, she felt compelled to write me a long letter about how horrible I am. I didn't feel up to countering the horrible part, but I corrected some misinformation in her tome and then shared with her that Twinkie and I are in love, living together and getting married.
After brunch, we left Toronto and went for a drive and revisited all the places we'd seen on our first notadate on July 18th, 2009. It was romantic and sweet and silly and fun and fabulous. I'm so glad we did it. We found some neat little antique shops and went back to a pub that has the nastiest staff and worst service ever. When we walked in, they said "we're not serving food and we're almost closing, so ...." I ordered a beer and drank it from the bottle (did I mention it is also dirty) Twinkie didn't drink her pop from a glass. But i'm still glad we went. Will post pictures here.
Both of our hearts were full with our lovely day - sounds cheesy and it is. And I'm proud of it. Bliss and enjoyment are so incredible and so fulfilling and I celebrate it when it comes my way :) Thank you so much Twinkie.
Monday, July 12, 2010
colour scheme
Have changed my blog colours to what I perceive are yellow and teal. Will let it percolate.
Garter
Being ladies/women/womyn/female/sistahs/girlies/girlymen/whatevs
I thought that possibly we could skip the whole garter thing. Lets face it - Twinkie is the most gorgeous sexy thing to walk the face of the earth and not sure how I'd feel having her rip a garter from my upper thigh. I doubt it would look very PG13. So, because my mind sometimes decides things on its own, I decided - nope, no garter. Although my 84 year old uncle might be okay with that, I'm not comfortable showing him that. In my mind, decided.
Just now, Twinkie and I were lurking wedding pictures of "the ghosts of years past" and came across a picture of a guy doing the garter thing to a wedding girl. In a white frou frou dress. I said thank goodness we won't be doing that. Twinkie looked at me and said "I am so doing that. Totally. Absolutely"
I hope someone spikes my uncle, mother and stepfather's drinks with medicinal marijuana if that is what is coming down the pipe.
Zut alors.
I thought that possibly we could skip the whole garter thing. Lets face it - Twinkie is the most gorgeous sexy thing to walk the face of the earth and not sure how I'd feel having her rip a garter from my upper thigh. I doubt it would look very PG13. So, because my mind sometimes decides things on its own, I decided - nope, no garter. Although my 84 year old uncle might be okay with that, I'm not comfortable showing him that. In my mind, decided.
Just now, Twinkie and I were lurking wedding pictures of "the ghosts of years past" and came across a picture of a guy doing the garter thing to a wedding girl. In a white frou frou dress. I said thank goodness we won't be doing that. Twinkie looked at me and said "I am so doing that. Totally. Absolutely"
I hope someone spikes my uncle, mother and stepfather's drinks with medicinal marijuana if that is what is coming down the pipe.
Zut alors.
Time Flies
July 12th - two weeks since my last post and since the great garage cleanup/worst fighting week ever. Thankfully two weeks.
48 weeks til our wedding. We still have no one to marry us. But we have bridesmaids, SC and Creampuff, two offers of people to sing at our wedding, actually three - KM, BM and LC. And also, LC has agreed to MC, which is great, and it looks like LC and KG will be coming! YAY!. My nephews have chosen the colour scheme - yellow and teal for the colours, rock/techno for the music and hamburgers and hotdogs for food. When I told my stepfather that we were thinking of having a barbecue - he said that that would be easy, the wait staff could just take orders for salmon, steak or chicken. **sigh** I laughed and laughed. We were thinking more along the lines of burgers, potato salad. Maybe skewers. Peanut free/nut free of course.
Just thought that maybe JB of MCCT might be someone to ask - will confer with Twinkie. Other than that, still madly in love, astonishingly engaged and realizing that I probably should get thinking and planning more seriously.
Yours in blog
Cupcake
48 weeks til our wedding. We still have no one to marry us. But we have bridesmaids, SC and Creampuff, two offers of people to sing at our wedding, actually three - KM, BM and LC. And also, LC has agreed to MC, which is great, and it looks like LC and KG will be coming! YAY!. My nephews have chosen the colour scheme - yellow and teal for the colours, rock/techno for the music and hamburgers and hotdogs for food. When I told my stepfather that we were thinking of having a barbecue - he said that that would be easy, the wait staff could just take orders for salmon, steak or chicken. **sigh** I laughed and laughed. We were thinking more along the lines of burgers, potato salad. Maybe skewers. Peanut free/nut free of course.
Just thought that maybe JB of MCCT might be someone to ask - will confer with Twinkie. Other than that, still madly in love, astonishingly engaged and realizing that I probably should get thinking and planning more seriously.
Yours in blog
Cupcake
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