I've heard people say that the most important thing you can do in life is to show up. If that is so, perhaps the second most important thing you can do is to hang on or hang in. I'm sure there are worse things than unemployment to try a relationship - I know that there are. But unemployment, for us, has taken a toll. And somehow, we have hung in and hung on.
I have a great contract now with a great group of people, most importantly D.W. - and I am grateful for the gift of his presence in my life. And I am grateful for the really interesting contract with interesting people doing a really interesting job.
Our last post was November 19th, just after my brother's wedding - which was really, really fun! In November, we also had a first meeting of most of our wedding party - which coincidentally grew in numbers after our meeting. We had a lovely eggs benedict brunch at #69. Venus and Knotty Girl were there, S.C. (who definitely needs a code name, suggestions welcome), Tiger, Cupcake, Twinkie, Twinkie's sister, and Mr. Filofax, our wedding Planner. It was a nice morning/afternoon with much laughter, many exchanges of numbers and some great connections. It really was great to bring everyone together.
Creampuff was still in school, so she missed the festivities.
We have lagged in our planning, but we still may be able to pull it all together!
We're getting married now at MCC Toronto - which will help people to not fall in the Koi pool during the wedding ceremony, and also will help people to stay dry in the event of rain (or snow) :). The reception is still at Fantasy Farms, despite the fact that the previously promised renovations have failed to materialize, so ... we will all be celebrating in the midst of Cinderella and various other stained glass fairy tale creatures.
We've just ordered our invitations and sent out address requests. Later today, we'll be sending out an email asking if people will want to book a hotel - so that we know how many rooms to book at the Ramada Inn.
There is a lot to do. We need to book our cottage in PEI for the duration and take some time off - and make sure that our guests get fed. The booze has been ordered and most people have set aside the date. So ... the celebration, despite lacking a few details, is set to go.
And we are hanging on. So much around us is changing, the economy is affecting so much and so many. Some of our dear friends have had horrible surprises in their life and become suddenly single - some of our dear friends have had great surprises in their life and become suddenly in love. The guest list we created when we first got together is quite different now than it was then. So strange when you start documenting change and flux.
And so much admiration and respect for people who have hung on and hung in and so much admiration and respect for people who have let go and moved on. There really are no guarantees nor any promises, nor much of a sure thing. Which is why we want to celebrate the fact that despite everything, we still are the best of friends, we still laugh our way through most days, and in the midst of it all, we still want to do it all together, hand in hand, heart in hand, holding our little family close and being grateful for all of it. **sigh**
Yours in gratitude,
Cupcake
